Family, Life, Love Life

Distance Makes the Heart Grow Fodder

Life sure has a way of not going as planned or the way you envisioned. You can meticulously plan out every detail and measure when you will hit every milestone, but swimming in the ocean that is life can knock you on your ass. Even if you are one of those who play it safe only putting your toes in. There is always that one rogue wave ready to suck you in, rip your top off, and put sand in places you didn’t know existed. As you are beaten into the ocean floor, cheeks scraping shells and thinking this is it I am about to drown, and then… You pop up with a bruised face and equally as bruised ego clutching where your bathing suit used to be. And, that’s when you see all of your people standing there with towels in hand, ready to help. They reassure you that everything is ok, that is happens to everyone, and that this will make one helluva story later.

ALSO…there’s this

I have been told you can’t go looking for happiness in other people but that you need to find it in yourself. I can see some truth in that, but my happiness is found when I look into the eyes of the people with whom I am the closest. Creating experiences and sharing memories, even with the youngest of my loved ones makes me happy. Here’s to my friends (the family that I got to pick), my siblings, my niece and nephews, and of course, my cousins.

Time is a lot more precious when you are older. It is harder to get together with those that you love because everyone is busy or tired. And, that’s ok. You get to spend your time the way you want and with whom you want. This means you can also opt out from hanging out with people because you don’t owe anyone anything. But, you do owe yourself living your best life.

My best life would be lived by spending time with the folks I named above, making memories, sharing experiences, and loving hard. I love you guys so hard! I also need to clear the fodder from my life. Time and energy are in short supply for me these days. I would like to focus on the people who share the same values and who want to be on the same beach as the other amazing people in my life. And when the lifeguard on duty is full of shit we should see that truth too and not be distracted by any flags used to separate and infuriate us. My passion is people and I got plenty of towels for you guys too.

Family, House, Ladies, Life, Love Life

Cousins Seeking Cousins

Personal Ad: See bullets below, along with full description at the bottom.Stoop pic

  • Must be platonic soul mates
  • No Linkin Park, Dave Mathews Band, or Nickelback fans
  • Must love Strangers with Candy, Reno 911, Parks and Rec, and the ID channel
  • Must be willing and able to watch movies involving demonic possession, demonic exorcism, or just demons as a collective.
  • Should not, however, love Satan.
  • We love going to shows, but we love staying home more.
  • Sex? Yes, please! Never together though. We are like sisters. And, no, we don’t share partners.
  • Must enjoy listening to long crazy stories—often involving multiple alter egos.
  • Trump supporters swipe left.
  • Walkie talkies are a preferred method of communication.
  • Patience is essential, along with effective communication skills and a love of dogs.
  • Must be able to handle severe anxiety…from both of us. Even medicated.
  • Must love our cousins and their kids—all 500 of them. (See cousins below)

For further clarification, we have written one another’s personal ad, below:


Tina will match best with a go-with-the-flow kind of lady. Patience is key. She likes funny, confident, smart, affectionate, attractive women. But who doesn’t? If you cannot stand to arrive a few minutes late, this is not the relationship for you. Do you like to spend endless hours laughing on the couch? Well, that’s exactly what you will get. Come over hungry. She’s Greek, so she must feed you! She plays the drums and spent a lot of time touring, so you will be subjected to several band videos. When she has a bad day, she likes to visit the local dog shelter and cover herself in medicinal puppies. If you want to win her heart, tell her that her hair looks amazing and her arm muscles are sexy. Tina is my person, my best friend, and closest confidante. She is the Dorothy to my Sophia. We are super close, so you must be confident enough that you aren’t threatened by our relationship. Insecure women need not apply.


Sam’s perfect match will understand and embrace her love of all things Harry Potter. If you haven’t watched all eight movies, she will be thrilled to have a movie marathon. She likes other kinds of marathons, too. But, not the running kind—if you catch my drift. Although, she is open to new experiences. The right woman should be fully prepared to dance in the front row when Sam’s band plays a live show. If you have poor taste in music, she will help refine it. But, don’t ever try to take control of the radio. The right woman should consider buying me a nice gift; nothing fancy, just something to show her how much you like me. Never ever ask her to do the Carlton. I can ask her to do it; you cannot. Come prepared with innovative theories about Game of Thrones. Having read the books is a major plus. Strong women with a feminine exterior are essential—rouge and lipstick will totally do the trick. If you want her sexy summer fade between your legs, compliment her hair often. Please hurry, I’m pretty sure she stole my soul, and I really want it back.

“So…what did you text her back? DUDE, NO WAY! That’s fucking awesome”